I teach a variety of calming skills/ self-regulation skills
to children. These consist of techniques to help balance heart rate variability
(HRV).
I found an interesting article online where a 6-year-old boy
had kept his cool to save his sister who was chocking when his father was
freaking out.
The link for the article is below.
Kids and teens often tell me that coping skills don’t work.
Of course, we, professionals know that there is scientific
evidence that shows that calming skills can help maintain HRV.
I often joke (to make things light) that they work, but some
people just don’t know how to use them.
I give examples:
·
My car works. It is a standard (5-speed-stick
shift). I often killed the engine when I was first learning to drive. I could
easily say that this car doesn’t work. Well, it works. I just don’t have the
skills to use them.
·
If I can’t play pool. I could say. This pool
stick doesn’t work. Once again. It works. I just don’t have the skills to play
it.
·
If I pick up a guitar and make an awful sound. I
could say that the guitar doesn’t work. But as you can probably guess, I just
haven’t developed the skills to use it. Of course, I enjoy the random comment
by teens who say, “maybe that awful sound would be great music to someone.”
Back on task. Most people are not perfect the first time
they drive a manual car, play pool, or play a guitar. It takes practice to
develop the skill.
I feel pretty proud at my own ability to stay cool, collect,
and calm during emergencies. I’ve developed this skill over time from
practicing skills like mindfulness, mediation, deep breathing, and other
skills.
The benefit of staying calm is that I won’t make any
irrational decisions that I might later regret.
Here is the link for the article:
http://www.cafemom.com/group/116830/forums/read/18162047/One_Skillet_Cabbage_and_Apple_Pork_Chops_with_Roasted_Fingerling_Potatoes?prism_id=153943&utm_medium=sem2&utm_campaign=prism&utm_source=internal&utm_content=1840.3440
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